tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post1018873598693831218..comments2024-03-28T09:03:55.988-07:00Comments on Infertile Phoenix: Talking to a Fertile WomanInfertile Phoenixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-77645687252630971302018-03-17T18:24:51.524-07:002018-03-17T18:24:51.524-07:00Thank you Jess! People, especially mothers it seem...Thank you Jess! People, especially mothers it seems, really want to "fix" my situation. But they can't. I know that even if they don't. And you're right--it is dismissive. They have no idea what it has taken me to get to this point.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-86530364917291363852018-03-17T16:43:01.700-07:002018-03-17T16:43:01.700-07:00Oh man. They don't, they really don't. I f...Oh man. They don't, they really don't. I feel like the urge to "fix it" is very well-meaning, but can be so dismissive of the decision to end the horrors of limbo and move on with life, without children. I'm glad you weren't thrown by the questions and you could educate, and your last response was awesome and I will steal it in the future. Short, sweet, to the point, and a topic-ender. :) Such great progress that that interchange didn't upset you and ruin your day! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-86361626992893340682018-03-16T13:01:57.821-07:002018-03-16T13:01:57.821-07:00Exactly. I just felt like I could be honest with t...Exactly. I just felt like I could be honest with this woman so I was. But yes, she asked very typical questions. Oh well.<br /><br />Privately, my friend was kind of funny about it later. Referring to this woman's questions to me, my friend sarcastically said, "No! I haven't thought of any of those things. Thank you for mentioning them!" Hahaha.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-8912198069353484562018-03-15T19:43:24.889-07:002018-03-15T19:43:24.889-07:00Sometimes you meet people and you just feel that y...Sometimes you meet people and you just feel that you can be honest. I'm glad you felt you could do this with her, though sorry you got such predictable questions. I'm glad you felt you could answer them without hurt, and that she asked them without judgement. But you're right. They don't get it.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836580783987031975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-14623319212728821582018-03-15T08:16:23.739-07:002018-03-15T08:16:23.739-07:00It didn't ruin my day. I've only met this ...It didn't ruin my day. I've only met this woman a couple of times, but there is something about her that I really like. I figured it was worth a shot, trying to speak honestly about my situation. She wasn't rude, just typical. <br /><br />On the other hand, two days later I had lunch with a friend (who has two sons) and she said something incredibly thoughtful that I blogged about on my next post!Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-57427070984357248292018-03-14T13:11:00.513-07:002018-03-14T13:11:00.513-07:00Nope, they don't. :p There's the (very) o...Nope, they don't. :p There's the (very) odd exception, but they seem to be far & few between, unfortunately. Glad this encounter didn't ruin your day! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-75672362543327794232018-03-12T17:30:32.634-07:002018-03-12T17:30:32.634-07:00I'm not opposed to trying again with someone e...I'm not opposed to trying again with someone else sometime, but I probably won't for awhile. I don't understand why they don't get it, but they don't.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-13287557194140843042018-03-12T09:46:18.285-07:002018-03-12T09:46:18.285-07:00No, they don't. I've met people who were a...No, they don't. I've met people who were an exception to this rule but then found out they were psychologists ;-).<br /><br />I'm glad you felt free to talk openly and didn't get hurt by the curiosity of that woman.Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.com