tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post3424684247543369117..comments2024-03-28T09:03:55.988-07:00Comments on Infertile Phoenix: Back To CounselingInfertile Phoenixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-34666289642433632222019-12-08T10:08:01.923-08:002019-12-08T10:08:01.923-08:00I've heard that a hysterectomy does not always...I've heard that a hysterectomy does not always ease endometriosis pain and that sucks! Fortunately, that is not one of the problems I have with my (non)reproductive system. Still, pain is always a possible consequence from any surgery... <br /><br />The more I think about it, the more I am leaning toward having the procedure. I am at a high risk for cervical cancer and a hysterectomy would eliminate that possibility. I'm still thinking on it though. Thank you for your feedback!Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-87330008197761976562019-12-07T14:25:09.386-08:002019-12-07T14:25:09.386-08:00Dear Phoenix, about the hysterectomy, I know from ...Dear Phoenix, about the hysterectomy, I know from a the French blogger Artemise that she still has a lot of pain more than one year after the operation. Of course, each case is different (she has severe endometriosis) but at least I think that after each operation the body has to readjust... it's a difficult decision! I hope you can get sufficient advice and that the doctors will inform you honestly about benefits and risks.Léahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12748138682609318291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-67960859908624230532019-12-04T17:18:52.011-08:002019-12-04T17:18:52.011-08:00It's complicated. My mom loves me but is just ...It's complicated. My mom loves me but is just so unknowingly rude and, often, mean. It's hard for me. <br /><br />The hysterectomy is approved. I'm just trying to decide if it's what I should do or not. Everything seems to be lining up (meaning, the logistics like time off from work this summer and it's affordable due to my current insurance coverage), so it seems like the best thing to do. Then I wouldn't have to worry about certain things like a particular cancer that is in my family history. But I'm still being thoughtful about it. Thank you for sharing your experience. <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-7364814552667830882019-12-02T17:55:36.738-08:002019-12-02T17:55:36.738-08:00It is such a wonderful (and rare) thing when you f...It is such a wonderful (and rare) thing when you find a counselor who is the perfect fit. I'm so glad you found one, because the fertility lady sounded AWFUL. I feel like sometimes the counselors attached to fertility clinics aren't the best -- I had one that was super nice but spent most of our time telling me how "brave" and "strong" I was, and feeling sorry for me, and that was supremely not helpful as I felt none of those things (but very sorry for myself, ha). I hope you find that right person for you to deal with your mother -- I'm sorry you are in this situation. It sucks when a parent who is logically supposed to be unconditionally loving and supportive is just...not. That's a hard load to carry. My therapist actually told me that she's retiring in February the last time I saw her, and so I am in a pickle to decide what to do next. Maybe your search will help me navigate mine! :)<br /><br />I hope they approve your hysterectomy. I had complicated feelings for about a minute about mine. All in all it felt like a great freeing, an exorcism of sorts, and I was more sad before than I ever was after. I hope you get the help you need and deserve on all fronts! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-62102642256791594762019-12-01T17:51:12.787-08:002019-12-01T17:51:12.787-08:00Thank you Klara. It was kind of a lengthy post. Bu...Thank you Klara. It was kind of a lengthy post. But, as usual, I wrote for myself and for those still suffering. If I can de-stigmatize asking for help, then I am happy to do that.<br /><br />I haven't decided about the hysterectomy yet. (To anyone that may be reading, I am open to hearing your experiences, positive or negative.) My doctor offered it, but the choice is up to me. I am still thinking about it.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-88620122345246702112019-11-30T01:31:11.388-08:002019-11-30T01:31:11.388-08:00dear Phoenix, I am glad you reached out for help. ...dear Phoenix, I am glad you reached out for help. <br />I am sorry to hear that you had repeated abnormal pap results (I also had some of them) and that hysterectomy has to be done. <br />Wishing you all the best.<br />love,<br />KlaraKlarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com