tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post3879761839438593954..comments2024-03-28T09:03:55.988-07:00Comments on Infertile Phoenix: Self-Care Above All ElseInfertile Phoenixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-54092491769440418822017-04-26T05:15:37.757-07:002017-04-26T05:15:37.757-07:00wow, that's so rude that she didn't even r...wow, that's so rude that she didn't even reply! I really don't understand some people. I'm sorry you had to deal with this but I think you handled it well. dublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-54794468715186022262017-04-25T15:02:24.207-07:002017-04-25T15:02:24.207-07:00Does self-care come before other people's expe...Does self-care come before other people's expectations and feelings? If I keep an arm's length distance away from relatives my age, will it be OK to honor my self care above all else with the risk of people being mad at me for me not living up to their expectations? This is something I'm struggling with right now. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11083507702086670650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-73313080559819016182017-04-25T14:47:09.466-07:002017-04-25T14:47:09.466-07:00Wow - sorry your professor was so uncaring! Good ...Wow - sorry your professor was so uncaring! Good for you for speaking up and sticking to your guns!! I often fail to remind myself that even when people are rude to me, I likely made them think on some level. Or maybe even feel, but with some charmers you can't tell:-). Love that you validated and expressed confidence in your own healing process too.<br /><br />This class situation would be more feasible for someone in the throws of grieving their lost children if we knew we could walk into the discussion with our perspective, knowing it would be respected, heard and empathized with. That people like your professor don't see that this is a societal, not an individual failure, needs to change. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-9355614477903476422017-04-13T16:11:41.260-07:002017-04-13T16:11:41.260-07:00Thank you Klara!! I am lucky to have all of you! I...Thank you Klara!! I am lucky to have all of you! I have learned so much from everyone and from you especially. <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-4559693061999641832017-04-13T09:13:16.721-07:002017-04-13T09:13:16.721-07:00I am very proud of you... I agree with you 100 %: ...I am very proud of you... I agree with you 100 %: Self-Care Above All Else!<br /><br />Luckily you have us... there are plenty of us that understand you! <br /><br />lots of love from sLOVEnia,<br /><br />KlaraKlarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-87919844004331734972017-04-13T07:21:07.318-07:002017-04-13T07:21:07.318-07:00Silly me for thinking a professor without children...Silly me for thinking a professor without children might be empathetic. Haven't I learned by now? Haha.<br /><br />I love your perspective!! That would've been awesome to show up to class and argue against the whole premise of the article. I look forward to getting to a place where I can successfully do that.<br /><br />Thank you Mali. :)Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-77492241721535505452017-04-13T07:17:43.552-07:002017-04-13T07:17:43.552-07:00Thank you so much! Your comment gives me a lot of ...Thank you so much! Your comment gives me a lot of comfort. Thank you for saying I acted with respect and integrity. I questioned whether I should've just lied and said I was sick or having a family emergency, but I really just wanted to tell the truth. You make me feel better for going with the truth. I will stick out this terrible program because the future career is going to be worth it. Until then, I guess I'll have a lot of material to write about on this blog hahaha. Thank you again for reading and commenting.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-39420905284383380522017-04-12T18:02:28.811-07:002017-04-12T18:02:28.811-07:00I suspect it might have been one of the first time...I suspect it might have been one of the first times your professor has ever had to face the situation of someone grieving their lack of children. How unprofessional of her not to consider this! I hope she has learned from it.<br /><br />These days, I would relish going to something like this, so I could argue against the whole "gives women's lives meaning" theme. But in the early years, I definitely couldn't have managed it. I'm glad you put self-care as a priority.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-46580680422386870172017-04-12T15:23:24.946-07:002017-04-12T15:23:24.946-07:00I'm so sorry that you were treated so poorly. ...I'm so sorry that you were treated so poorly. I would like to say that I'm shocked, but I retrained in an allied health profession a few years back and this story (plus others you've mentioned) ring very true. My fellow students and I had many conversations about how people in a supposedly caring profession could have so little empathy. It must have taken a lot of courage to explain your position (you could have so easily come up with some other excuse, but instead you acted with respect and integrity). You deserved a similar level of consideration and respect in her response. I am tempted to say that you should complain, but I know that's easier said than done and I probably wouldn't do it myself. I actually came very close to dropping out of my course because of the behavior of the lecturers and placement supervisors, but I'm glad I stuck with it in the end. Good luck.<br /><br />NaomiAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01912492128662300736noreply@blogger.com