tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post8372634874313554551..comments2024-03-28T09:03:55.988-07:00Comments on Infertile Phoenix: Unwanted Shower InvitationInfertile Phoenixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-71254940099058251702018-02-26T17:18:25.324-08:002018-02-26T17:18:25.324-08:00I think that's exactly it. The majority of the...I think that's exactly it. The majority of them are 23-25 and that's great for everyone that they're excited and will be celebrating her. I just don't want to be a part of it. ;)Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-59175886406048331952018-02-26T16:40:14.254-08:002018-02-26T16:40:14.254-08:00My guess is that (as young people), they are excit...My guess is that (as young people), they are excited about this classmate's pregnancy... none of them were probably around for the first or second pregnancy, but since they've known her/been around for the third, they want to celebrate it with her. You had every right to opt out of both the shower & the messages and I am willing to bet more than a few others were annoyed by the flurry of messages going back & forth (I know I have been, for far less traumatic reasons than a baby shower...!). loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-77220820338000058522018-02-12T15:00:54.034-08:002018-02-12T15:00:54.034-08:00Thank you Elaine. I try my best. I do what I can w...Thank you Elaine. I try my best. I do what I can when I can to take care of myself.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-31445687582029698112018-02-12T14:59:59.914-08:002018-02-12T14:59:59.914-08:00Exactly. It's a baby shower for her third baby...Exactly. It's a baby shower for her third baby. I have never heard of such a thing. She is also getting special treatment from the school. She is allowed to finish the semester almost two months early. I am all for supporting pregnant women and parents, but the accommodations they are giving her are completely unfair. But I guess we all know that already: life isn't fair.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-7919525461124865122018-02-12T12:26:59.522-08:002018-02-12T12:26:59.522-08:00It's a pity that your cozy evening was interru...It's a pity that your cozy evening was interrupted, but I agree with what has been said above: well done! I do like that two others left the group, too.Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-55916143185832002122018-02-11T18:16:03.289-08:002018-02-11T18:16:03.289-08:00First, I'm so sorry you had to see that! I...First, I'm so sorry you had to see that! I'm so glad you removed from that situation and that you don't feel even a little bad about it! <br /><br />Second, a third baby? Seriously? That sounds like a gift grab to me! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-55063396341458664642018-02-10T07:36:32.048-08:002018-02-10T07:36:32.048-08:00Thank you! It feels good to be understood. I thoug...Thank you! It feels good to be understood. I thought the same thing: why do people think we all want to be a part of this baby shower? I will chalk it up to their age and naivete. For me, I felt pretty good about 1) my actions and 2) not caring how I "appeared" or what people "might think." Who freaking cares?? It always comes down to the fact that no one else is living my life except me.Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-56244471757206162702018-02-09T14:24:25.105-08:002018-02-09T14:24:25.105-08:00I'm sorry your super cozy Saturday night was i...I'm sorry your super cozy Saturday night was intruded on, but you handled that AWESOMELY! I love what you said to your friend. I love that you left the group. Why on earth would they assume everyone in the class wanted to throw a surprise baby shower for a third baby, of someone that most of you probably don't know all that well? I thought it was called a "sprinkle" when it's not the first, and I've NEVER heard of doing a third baby sprinkle, let alone a full-blown stranger shower. Good for you for leaving and not giving a whit what anyone thought. Good for you for making your friend laugh. I'm glad you did what you needed to do, for you! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-72389832964764898602018-02-09T06:59:49.270-08:002018-02-09T06:59:49.270-08:00Thank you! When I am not concerned about what othe...Thank you! When I am not concerned about what others may be thinking, I know I am growing stronger and more secure with my situation.<br /><br />I asked a friend the other day if anyone else had left the group and learned two people had! Two girls that are both 24. Who knows what their reasons were. Don't like baby showers? Don't have money to contribute after paying for tuition and books? Not a part of that social circle and just not interested? Who knows, who cares. It doesn't matter if I would've been the only person to leave the group, but I'll admit that it is nice that I'm not. :)Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-86522811530111503132018-02-09T06:55:22.357-08:002018-02-09T06:55:22.357-08:00Thank you Klara! So much of my confidence in takin...Thank you Klara! So much of my confidence in taking care of myself I learned from you. Before I started this blog I read your whole blog, and I received that message from you over and over. Other people do not understand this life--I have to take care of myself. So thank you for your comments but especially thank you for all of your help over the years. <3 Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-12477173562853845262018-02-08T21:40:52.950-08:002018-02-08T21:40:52.950-08:00What a great reaction! Sounds like he wanted to le...What a great reaction! Sounds like he wanted to leave the group too. <br /><br />I'm glad that you took care of yourself. Making your friend laugh was just a bonus.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354761566702250657.post-91750892077131389482018-02-08T00:19:05.923-08:002018-02-08T00:19:05.923-08:00dear Phoenix, I am so proud of you! I would have ...dear Phoenix, I am so proud of you! I would have done the same.<br />And you see... all people saw that you left and only one kind person was interested and brave enough to ask you something it. <br /><br />And I agree: Ithere is a plus side to being so busy you don't have time to think about infertility.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com