Sunday, April 20, 2025

(M)Other's Day Next Month

I just learned about this awesome sounding event in Chicago next month. It's called The Other's Day Brunch. I can't go this year, but I'd honestly/seriously like to go next year. Make a trip out of it. My boyfriend likes Chicago. I've been a couple of times. Do some shopping (maybe) and eat some good food (definitely). See some sites. And go to this brunch! Why not? One of my favorite strategies in life is to have things to look forward to.

I can't go to the Other's Day Brunch this year. I already have Mother's Day plans. Sigh... 

For years, Mother's Day was on the forefront of my radar screen and I made sure to stay home that day. I didn't want to go out to eat or even run errands. I could not handle anyone wishing me a Happy Mother's Day. I just stayed home and ordered pizza instead.

Over time, Mother's Day dropped off my radar screen. Some years I forgot about it completely. And now I just don't care. I don't feel bad or sad or bitter. I just don't care.

But we'll see how I feel this year... 

Because this year I will be on vacation with my parents and sisters. One of my sisters lives in a tourist town, so it's a great place for us to meet to visit. My mother is very excited about going out for a Mother's Day lunch. She is calling the whole trip her Mother's Day Weekend trip, which, sure, I guess it is. She's a mom and she'll get to spend Mother's Day weekend with her three adult daughters. That is something to celebrate, and I am not being sarcastic.

So I actually have Mother's Day plans this year, but I really want to go to brunch in Chicago next year! This year should be fine though. I think I'm going in with the right attitude. I will be there to celebrate my family's health and our ability to get together. I don't expect anyone to think twice about what the day might mean to me. If any strong feelings arise, I will tuck them safely away and feel them later when I'm by myself... Preferably on the beach. :)


Picture found here https://www.franklinarts.com/blog/entry/summer-beaches

6 comments:

  1. Doesn't that sound lovely! A whole brunch event, just for people like us. Mother's Day is always, ALWAYS the weekend after my birthday. It was a one-two punch of a) getting older and less likely to achieve motherhood, and b) watching everyone else celebrate a holiday that eventually I'd realize would never be for me. I used to hide away too, but not as much anymore. Although, I still don't typically go out on the day. A beach vacation weekend sounds lovely, hopefully you have some space for yourself during the trip to decompress!

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    1. Mother's Day was really hard for me for a long time, especially when I was trying to get pregnant. I could see how I would hate it coming right after my birthday back in those days. Mother's Day wouldn't even be on my mind for this year except my mom planned this trip a couple of months ago.

      And yes, thankfully, I'll be at the beach. I'm not really a beach person, but it's awesome for a couple of days as a vacation every couple of years.

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  2. Oh Phoenix, you're brave!! I hope it all goes well for you. I've heard of Lana's Others Day Brunch -- maybe you can go some other year!

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    1. Thank you!!! I anticipate this trip will have its difficulties, but I really want to spend time with my dad. <3

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  3. An "Other's Day Brunch" – excellent! I would love to join if it was near me :-).
    I hope your vacation will go well. Enjoy the beach <3!
    I have made a similar decision for this year (I wrote about it, but have not hit publish yet). I choose thankfulness for still having my mother around. Due to family predispositions I do not take that for granted.
    Rainy spring greetings from Switzerland!

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    1. Thanks Elaine! How interesting that you have made a similar decision. <3

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