I can't go to the Other's Day Brunch this year. I already have Mother's Day plans. Sigh...
For years, Mother's Day was on the forefront of my radar screen and I made sure to stay home that day. I didn't want to go out to eat or even run errands. I could not handle anyone wishing me a Happy Mother's Day. I just stayed home and ordered pizza instead.
Over time, Mother's Day dropped off my radar screen. Some years I forgot about it completely. And now I just don't care. I don't feel bad or sad or bitter. I just don't care.
But we'll see how I feel this year...
Because this year I will be on vacation with my parents and sisters. One of my sisters lives in a tourist town, so it's a great place for us to meet to visit. My mother is very excited about going out for a Mother's Day lunch. She is calling the whole trip her Mother's Day Weekend trip, which, sure, I guess it is. She's a mom and she'll get to spend Mother's Day weekend with her three adult daughters. That is something to celebrate, and I am not being sarcastic.
So I actually have Mother's Day plans this year, but I really want to go to brunch in Chicago next year! This year should be fine though. I think I'm going in with the right attitude. I will be there to celebrate my family's health and our ability to get together. I don't expect anyone to think twice about what the day might mean to me. If any strong feelings arise, I will tuck them safely away and feel them later when I'm by myself... Preferably on the beach. :)
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Doesn't that sound lovely! A whole brunch event, just for people like us. Mother's Day is always, ALWAYS the weekend after my birthday. It was a one-two punch of a) getting older and less likely to achieve motherhood, and b) watching everyone else celebrate a holiday that eventually I'd realize would never be for me. I used to hide away too, but not as much anymore. Although, I still don't typically go out on the day. A beach vacation weekend sounds lovely, hopefully you have some space for yourself during the trip to decompress!
ReplyDeleteMother's Day was really hard for me for a long time, especially when I was trying to get pregnant. I could see how I would hate it coming right after my birthday back in those days. Mother's Day wouldn't even be on my mind for this year except my mom planned this trip a couple of months ago.
DeleteAnd yes, thankfully, I'll be at the beach. I'm not really a beach person, but it's awesome for a couple of days as a vacation every couple of years.
Oh Phoenix, you're brave!! I hope it all goes well for you. I've heard of Lana's Others Day Brunch -- maybe you can go some other year!
ReplyDeleteThank you!!! I anticipate this trip will have its difficulties, but I really want to spend time with my dad. <3
DeleteAn "Other's Day Brunch" – excellent! I would love to join if it was near me :-).
ReplyDeleteI hope your vacation will go well. Enjoy the beach <3!
I have made a similar decision for this year (I wrote about it, but have not hit publish yet). I choose thankfulness for still having my mother around. Due to family predispositions I do not take that for granted.
Rainy spring greetings from Switzerland!
Thanks Elaine! How interesting that you have made a similar decision. <3
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