Well, this is far from the first time something like this has happened, but it still stings.
I got ghosted by a friend. He just stopped replying to my texts. Then yesterday I learned through a mutual friend that his wife just had their third kid.
I lost another friend to parenthood.
It sucks. It stings.
When we became friends he already had his first kid. I was happy for him and his wife when they had their second kid. But I didn't make the cut for their third kid.
I get it. He's busy. His life is going a hundred miles an hour in another direction.
I also don't get it. A parent is still a person. They still get to have 5 - 10 minutes of free time every now and then to text a friend. Personally, I think I'm a good friend. I also think I'm a good person to keep around because I will always be an outlet completely separate from the parenting world, which I'm sure is a much needed mental break every now and then. Not to mention, I'm busy too. Life is made up of what you make space for.
But the dynamics and rhythms in people's lives change and friendships often don't last, especially when one person has kids and the other doesn't.
I'm done pursuing friendships with people with kids. I can be friendly, but I doubt I'll ever be in an active friendship again with a person who is currently raising children.
I've had enough loss in my life.