My thirties did not go as planned. I got married at 30 and planned to wait a year before getting pregnant and having a baby. A year passed and my husband wasn't ready. I waited a second year. Then I tried to conceive for two years before going to a doctor. I was scared. Things only got scarier. I did three IUIs with injectables and two rounds of IVF. By 35, I knew I could not have children. At 36 I went back to school for a new career. By 39, I was divorced.
Just to reiterate, my thirties did not go as planned.
That meant my 40s were up to me.
Where do I want to live? What do I want to do for work? What do I want to do for fun?
I knew it was going to take years to feel at home, meet people, and make friends. I was right.
But time will pass anyway.
What do you want to move toward?
Whatever decade you're in, your next decade is up to you. Of course there are a billion things out of our control, but there are also a lot of little steps we can take to move in the direction we want.
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Thank you for this post, I really enjoy your blog and find this advice particularly helpful at the moment.
ReplyDeleteYou're very welcome! I'm glad it helped. We are all figuring out life together. <3
DeleteSuch good advice! I'm so proud of the life you've built yourself.
ReplyDeleteThank you! It means a lot to hear that someone is proud of me. <3
DeleteI'm glad. I was a bit worried it might sound condescending. Rather, I am in awe of you.
DeleteI'm 64 & still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up! lol The years go by so quickly! We may never get to exactly where we want to go, but hopefully we're getting closer! (And having some fun along the way!)
ReplyDeleteYes! Having some fun along the way is the most important. We may never get where we're going, but we'll get somewhere. Lol! I've found that moving toward the things/values/aspects that I want in my life has not led me astray in the last decade.
DeleteSuch an empowering post! So much change, so much trauma, but deciding that you get to choose what comes next is awesome and powerful. Love! 💜
ReplyDeleteThank you! I feel seen. <3
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