Okay, so I'm probably tempting fate with this post, but...
I haven't been asked anything kid-related in a while. I haven't heard "Do you have kids?" in... I don't remember how long. Even with going back to teaching, I haven't had any co-workers or even a single student ask, "Why don't you have any kids?" I was mentally prepared for it because kids will say anything. But it hasn't happened yet.
I remember going on vacation in Las Vegas many years ago and being asked multiple times a day by store employees, waitresses, and bartenders: "Do you have kids?" It was weird. And it bothered me. A lot. I mean, I was in Vegas of all places. Why was I receiving so many questions about whether or not I had children??
And now I live in a new place, a small town at that, and I have a new job and... crickets...
No one has asked anything.
Not that I'm complaining.
It just makes me think. Do I give off a different vibe now? Do I seem more comfortable in my own skin? Do I no longer project that something major is missing in my life?
I don't know the answer; I just think it's weird that when I finally reach the point where I can handle those types of questions I simply don't get them anymore. Has this happened to anyone else?
Of course, now that I'm posting this, I'm sure I'll get a question this week haha. If so, I'll report it in the comments. ;)
I hope you're not tempting fate! But maybe your confidence does make people think about other things, about better questions to ask you, about different topics of conversation. I really like that idea.
ReplyDeleteI think too that when we're in smaller places, maybe more people know our circumstances than we think? Or maybe smaller places don't just lump everyone together in a stereotype? (Which of course goes against the stereotype of narrow-minded small towns.)
What Mali said above. Also, I hate to bring up the "a" word ;) but I find the older I get, the fewer questions I get about kids. It's a relief, & one of the perqs of aging, lol. Hope the silence on this front continues for you!
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